Memorial Day Is Not About Summer

Memorial Day arrives every year with two personalities.

One wears red, white, and blue paper plates and smells faintly of sunscreen and grilled hamburgers.

The other stands very quietly in the background.

One says: summer is beginning.

The other says: remember.

And perhaps the most human thing about us is that we carry both.

I don’t say that critically.

I love summer. I love a patio. I love a gathering. I love the optimism of putting plants in the ground as if we have signed some private agreement with the future.

But before we rush into sales, cookouts, road trips, and opening-day energy, Memorial Day asks something gentler and more difficult of us.

Pause.

Remember.

Notice.

Not in an abstract way.

Not “support the troops” as a phrase tossed into the air and forgotten.

But remember that every freedom eventually traces back to someone who paid for it in a currency we never want to spend.

Someone’s child.

Someone’s spouse.

Someone’s parent.

Someone whose chair stayed empty.

History often arrives to us in giant chapters—wars, movements, victories, speeches.

But loss almost always arrives one family at a time.

One knock at the door.

One folded flag.

One life interrupted.

One future rewritten.

When I think about Memorial Day, I don’t think first about politics.

I think about humanity.

I think about ordinary people who likely imagined ordinary futures.

People who expected birthdays and gardens and anniversaries and careers and grandchildren and retirement and arguments over what to watch on television.

People who woke up one day and unknowingly stepped into history.

That has always humbled me.

And perhaps there is another quiet invitation inside this holiday.

To ask ourselves:

What do we do with the life that others never got to finish?

Not in a guilty way.

Not in a performative way.

But in an honoring way.

Do we spend our days well?

Do we tell people we love them?

Do we contribute something useful?

Do we protect what matters?

Do we stay awake to beauty?

Do we become the kind of people worth the sacrifice that came before us?

Memorial Day is not a command to be serious all day.

Go to the lake.

Eat the pie.

Laugh loudly.

Take the family photo.

Sit on the porch.

Watch children run through sprinklers.

Enjoy the privilege of ordinary life.

That is not disrespect.

That may be part of the point.

But maybe sometime today, carve out five quiet minutes.

Read a name.

Learn a story.

Visit a cemetery.

Look at an old photograph.

Thank someone carrying memories that did not end when the ceremonies did.

Because remembrance is not about becoming sad.

It is about refusing to become forgetful.

And in a world that moves faster every year and asks us to consume everything—including history—as quickly as possible…

perhaps remembering is its own kind of resistance.

Today I hope you enjoy the people around your table.

And I hope, somewhere in the middle of all the living, you leave room for gratitude.

Not because we owe the past our sadness.

But because we owe it our attention.

Thank you for spending a few minutes of your day here with me.

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With gratitude,

Julie Bolejack, MBA

The Mindful Activist

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